Take a quick look at this passage from Proverbs 31:
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
We as women often aspire to be the woman of proverbs 31, but more times than not we all feel like we are struggling even to just get the babies feed and changed while keeping the house at least halfway clean! (Or maybe it’s just me who’s struggling) Through in extra activities, doctor appointment, the kids extra curriculars, and time for my husband and I feel the waters rising above my head! And forget it if any work is required!
Not many people know that the new year brought some new struggles for the Eicher family. As If balancing being a wife, a mother and a care taker for my handicap brother weren’t enough for me, I decided to take on the role of business owner as well!
In January I launched my Eichermade business, specializing in vinyl creations and personalized handmade goods! What started as a hobby soon turned into a burning passion and it didn’t hurt that it brought in a little extra income. But with this new business venture came finding time to fit everything in to my day!
Then we introduced the blog into my life! Another passion I have found that takes up a part of my day!
So how do I find something that resembles balance and order? How do I attempt to stay on top of things ( like the never ending laundry and dishes or living room that gets messy just as fast as I pick it up)? How does one fit in all the extra things in life outside of the house? Like date nights, time with friends, work meeting, me time, lunch dates, ect.
I have learned that I have to physically write things down or I will forget them! (Just ask Asenath, it’s probably what she’s tiffed at me most about!) For some people the reminders or notes on their phones works just fine, for me not so much! I need to see it, I need to feel it, I need to make the connection with my hands and head.
This year I started using an actual planner, and my life has been running much smoother than before! And let me tell you I love this thing!!
It’s a creative 365 planner I purchased from Michaels. You can customize it pretty much however you like, in my planner I have my regular monthly calendar, my weekly calendar, and one dedicated to fitness and health. I also have a home section with my meal planner, cleaning schedule and monthly budget! I legitimately would be lost without this thing!
I have found it helpful to break down my day. In my weekly section of my planner I have three good sized boxes for each day. I use one for home, one for business, and one for my children and personal obligations, responsibilities, or appointments. It is a great way to keep on track and ahead of my day!
I have also learned that delegating and sharing the work load is not only okay but it is actually needed, and good for our family. My children have chores and responsibilities too. Andreana and Scarlett are responsible for picking up their room, putting away their clothes and helping mom with the day to day chores. It helps teach them responsibility, they learn to do things for themselves, and it keeps their lives balanced and disciplined.
I don’t know if the proverbs 31 woman did everything in one single day, everyday, but for me that’s just not always feasible! I’d like to think my family views me as a blessing and worth far more than rubies! I’m convinced that mindset starts with myself! If I give myself value they will too. If I beat myself up over what didn’t get accomplished today, I’m setting the tone of my inner voice and how I perceive what others say or may be thinking of me.
That being said I the biggest thing I have found to help find balance is showing myself some grace! Life doesn’t always go the way we plan! I could plan my day out to a T, but that doesn’t mean it always happens that way. Sometimes my littles need a little extra mom time, or my husband and I need to take time to connect and fill each other’s love tanks. Some times the kids get sick, or I am just too tired to function. Other times it’s just a lack of motivation. But you know what momma? It’s okay! You’ll get to those dirty dishes, and maybe even to the mountain of laundry that’s been living on your couch! But you don’t have to do it all at once. So when life isn’t going the way you want it, show yourself a little grace and take it one thing at a time!